It’s a few days after the New Year and I have to say, I am so happy to be leaving 2013 behind. While I typically don’t write about gloom and doom, my family and I have had quite a roller coaster year. A few months ago, my aunt passed away and then when I returned home from her funeral, my husband lost his job a few weeks later. To make matters worse, my brother had a heart attack last month. Thankfully, he’s okay and is lucky enough to have a new lease on life.
Further complicating our already busy lives was the addition of a puppy to our home. Her name is Santana, she is super cute and she likes to bite. We don’t know exactly what she is — she could be a lab, a rottweiler, a beagle, a terrier, a pit bull. Whatever she is, she is beyond adorable and I am really happy we found her – even though she keeps me up in the middle of the night.
And so, we begin 2014 with a sigh of relief. My husband is focusing on launching a baseball themed business with a good friend of ours. My brother has already lost 15 pounds and is working hard to shed more, and I’m busy building my business and making sure everyone in our house is happy and healthy. And my mom, who has been super stressed out over all the health and career issues we’ve faced can now rest easy and focus on her own physical and mental well being.
As for me, aside from being consumed with work at the moment, I am determined to get back on the diet wagon again (story of my life). I’ll be hitting Jazzercise as soon as I return from an important business trip and I hope that life this year is filled with happy surprises.
So what do I wish for in 2014? I guess health and happiness will cut it for me. I’ll save the loftier goals for 2015.
Here’s to an uneventful 2014!
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Gather round the dinner table and make your New Year’s Resolutions with your kids, says the Organized Mom, Lorraine Brock
Why is it that when the new year comes around, adults have plenty of New Year’s goals but we often don’t include the entire family? Maybe it’s because we consider our kids goals as unimportant or worse, they don’t have a vision for themselves. It’s true in some cases that a child’s goal can be totally off the mark of self help or betterment, like obtaining the next level in a video game or making a wish list of superficial items they want to gain the next year, but with some direction from parents kids can set goals at every level.
In our home, my husband and I have three teenage boys. Each year around New Year’s, we whip out the pen and paper and set down together to discuss our goals. This could be done around the dinner table or by having a quiet moment around the fire.
In order to get our boys started we try to have three main categories for which to set goals; school, personal, and spiritual. This does not mean they can only have three goals; on the contrary they can have as many goals as they want. But we do ask them to make an effort in improving at least one thing in each of these categories.
For example, our youngest son last year listed the following as his goals:
· B+ or higher in Math
· Walk Strider (our dog) and play ball with him more
· Bond more with dad (Dad time)
· Being a more Godly and polite young man
While this seems like a pretty mature list of goals, it did not start out that way. If I recall leveling on a game or buying a new game topped the list at first. But with the direction of what goal setting really was about and the importance our family unit placed on it, the light began to immerge in that little brain.
Once we had our goals there needed to be some accountability throughout the year. I know it’s hard for adults to stay focused, much less a child. So periodically throughout the year we bring the goals out to see the progress we had or had not made. I would suggest that you put on your calendar “check goals” about three times during the year. This will ensure you don’t forget to have periodic goal checks.
You’re probably wondering how many goals my three boys actually follow through on, well I will share. Our youngest met three of his four goals, our middle son meet all of his goals, and our oldest met half of one goal, out of four. Over all pretty great results, I’d say.
Just a note of advice that when reviewing the goals, just as with setting them up, you go over them as a family; it’s accountability. Yes, you will probably have one that is a little slack in meeting some of their goals, but if done with love and much encouragement he or she will see the benefit and growth in their siblings and want to jump aboard.
As always goal setting is best done as a family, so that others around you can help you meet those goals. Not to mention written goals can be treasures now and for the future; allowing each family member a glimpse back in time.
Lastly, goal setting each year allows your child to see where they have been and are today, with the added bonus of seeing the process of getting there. They being to see over time that every decision they make needs to help them get closer to their goals. It teaches them to question why they are doing what they are doing.
For example if your child has a goal of wanting to work with animals, should they be volunteering in a junior officers program? If that’s their only time to volunteer, I’d say the better choice would be to find a local veterinary clinic, city pound, zoo or other animal facility to volunteer at. Trying always to keep what you’re doing in alignment with your goals.
So grab a cup of coffee for you and hot chocolate for the kids, and then spend some time helping each other set their goals. You will see over time that each person’s goals normally become their passion and purpose. Lorraine Brock is a professional organizer, family coach, speaker, and founder and owner of “Get Organized!” “Get Organized!” is a professional organizing company in the Dallas, Texas area. “Get Organized!” specializes in organizing and de-cluttering homes as well as implementing systems in the home for better family management.
A popular media guest, Lorraine has appeared on Dallas’ two top morning television shows: Good Morning Texas and Good Day Fox, and has been featured on various radio outlets. She has been hallmarked in many local, regional, and national print and online magazines, such as the Dallas Morning News, The North Texas Kids Magazine, SheKnows.com, and Daily Candy Kids. To get more helpful advice from Lorraine, visit her blog Get Organized!
So, we’re three weeks into the New Year. Past experience has taught me that this period is like the “hump day.” You know, like a Wednesday. If you can make it past this mark, you’re in good shape for keeping that healthy eating resolution you made at the stroke of midnight.
One thing I promised myself this year was to look at these changes akin to the way our children develop. They do not learn how to walk overnight, nor does language or tying their shoes happen that quickly. Why should weight loss be any different? I’ve never been a quit-cold-turkey sort of gal, and frankly think it would suck all the fun from what I enjoy most–food. I’m a food writer and editor for heaven’s sake, so eating is a hazard of the job. What I can do, though, is make a conscious effort to make heathier choices when I’m not “on the job”, while also taming how large a portion I really need to taste test for work purposes (this has always been my Achilles heel).
So far I’m doing okay, and I’m very aware it could be better. The walnut fudge brownie recipe I was developing last week definitely made for irresistible temptation. I’m proud, though, that I’ve quit my morning bagel. That is not an easy feat for a Brooklyn girl with access to some of the best doughy holes in the country! Instead I’ve swapped in granola berry smoothies and poached eggs on multi-grain toast.
For snack time, I created a caramelized onion dip, reminiscent of the one made from those soup packets (and, es, indulge in a few chips before moving onto carrot sticks). And pizza Fridays have always been a tradition in our house. Give this recipe a try in your own kitchen, and you can say goodbye to takeout and all those extra calories from thick, doughy cheese laden slices.
To all the amazing people I’ve met in 2008, the friends I’ve re-connected with through Facebook and to all my dear friends and family who mean so much to me…
Hope that 2009 brings all of you happiness, health, financial stability and maybe the chance to re-invent yourself and do whatever it is you love. A few years ago, I made a personal list to recapture the things I love – most notably writing and singing and I’m happy to admit, I’m doing both. Of course, when it comes to the singing, my kids usually tell me to keep it down or cut it out, but nevertheless, I still belt out a show tune or two before they pull the plug on the karaoke machine. As for my writing, I’ve already got one book under my belt and this year, I’m going to tackle the world of children’s books – I’ve written a few stories for kids that I’d love to bring to life and with the help of a fabulous illustrator and my brand spankin’ new Rolemommy publishing imprint, I’ll be on my way.
For my kids, I hope to continue to watch them become incredible little human beings as they discover the sports, musical instruments and school subjects that interest them the most. So far, it looks like my son is going to be a guitar playing mathematician and my daughter went from being a figure skater to a basketball star. That’s the great thing about being 9 and 6 – the sky is the limit and absolutely anything is possible as long as you try!
For myself and my DH, I plan to hire the parental babysitters so we can plan a few weekend getaways. Plus, we are definitely doing some serious family vacationing in 2009 and as soon as I renew our kids’ passports, we are hitting the air or the sea!
For my parents, I hope for continued health, peace of mind and no stress. And for my friends, I wish them only wonderful things. May my single girlfriends find love in 2009 and may my married girlfriends find happiness at home. And for all my career driven friends, I hope that 2009 opens the doors to all the opportunities you’ve been wishing for. Don’t give up if you get rejected one too many times. It’s the determined souls who stick it out longer than the rest, who not only survive, but succeed beyond their wildest dreams.
So enough of my sappy wishes. Hope all you Role Mommies out there have a safe, healthy and happy New Year!
Well, it’s almost 2009 and I’m facing the same issues I’ve confronted since I was 12 years old. Weight loss. As fate would have it, I’ve yo-yo’d again and am nose to nose with my all time least favorite New Year’s Resolution of the year…take off 10-15 pounds. Why this resolution is on my list every single year is beyond me, but I guess it must have something to do with the pizza, fried dough and glasses of wine I’ve been enjoying this holiday season.
And so, here I am back at square one. Thankfully, I just received a package of goodies from Weight Watchers – they must have been reading my mind – or maybe they saw a recent picture or video of me on the web. Plus, they just launched a new program called Momentum and anything with the word “Mom” in it is right up my alley. Either way, I’ve got my pantry stuffed with diet cookies, cakes, sponge cake and more and I even have my Wii Fit socks on this morning because I’m planning on hopping on my Wii Fit balance board so I can start shedding some lbs.
Recently, I met an amazing mom – Julie over at Cool Mom Guide who managed to take off over 70 pounds thanks to the Wii Fit so this year, I am truly going to make a commitment and hop aboard. Sure, the thing is going to tell me that I gained weight since the last time I stopped on by (it’s been 300 days since my last workout), but better late than never. Julie even started her own fitness group called Wii Fit Mommies that I plan to sign up for too. Maybe I can connect with other chubby Miis (like me) online!
So you heard it here first – I’m going to get back on the Weight Watchers wagon while working out on my Wii Fit. Check back with my on January 30 and I’ll let you know how I’m doing – hey – you never know – maybe I’ll reach my goal by then – or at least my Mii might be a little smaller.