When the Angry Mob Follows You Through Cyberspace

Introducing a guest blog post submitted by one of our favorite Role Mommies, author Jen Singer…

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Last June, an angry mob of women
chased me across the Internet. I’d appeared on CBS The Early Show to talk about my holiday for full- and part-time at-home moms called, Please Take My Children to Work Day,” which I’d created years
ago when I was a (mostly) stay-at-home mom of two little kids. Held annually in
June, the holiday has even been officially declared by governors in about a
dozen states.

Though few moms these days take time
for themselves, I knew that at-home moms in particular often feel they
shouldn’t or can’t get a day off, even if they’re caring for small children
upwards of 100 hours a week. I also knew that few people – even their husbands
– would believe they deserved or needed it. So I made it official by creating
the holiday.

But the angry mob didn’t want to hear
it. They posted nasty things on other web sites and even tried to find me on my
own web site. I got rude e-mails from people telling me to find a more worthy
group of people to champion. It made me consider canceling my holiday
altogether. I mean, I’m a work-at-home mom now. Why should I take the hit for
stay-at-home moms?

Well, because nobody else will, least
of all at-home moms. As I explained on MommaSaid.net: “
At-home moms often don’t feel like they deserve a break
because they have the privilege of staying home. But when a sick day is doing
what you do every other day, only you feel worse, and you can’t use the
bathroom without an audience, you need an excuse to get a day off. And here it
is.”

For a few more hours, the angry
mob complained and questioned and dropped F-bombs in sentences with my name in
it. So I posted an answer to one of their most often asked questions:

“Q. Why do you think we
working moms would take your kids to work? We’re busy enough!


A. The title is tongue-in-cheek, people. Colorado declares it
“Stay-at-Home Mother Day.” That’s all it is. Eight or so hours off
from the daily chores and responsibilities. Not a slap in the face to working
moms any more than Father’s Day is a slap in the face to mothers, or Arbor Day
disses low-lying vegetation.”

I suggested to the naysayers that they
start their own holiday or celebration of working moms. “
Think about it: the media is filled with working moms, so
they’ll cover it. Corporations are filled with them, too, and they’ll sponsor
it.” And I’ll attend it, now that I’m a work-at-home mom.

Perhaps an angry mob will chase
them across the Internet, too, but I hope not. I’d hope that all moms can all
see that each and every one of us is just doing our best to get by however we
can. It’s just that stay-at-home mothers didn’t have a voice, so I gave it to
them, along with a much needed day off.

Jen Singer is the author of Stop Second
Guessing Yourself – The Toddler Years,
and the creator of MommaSaid.net. She writes the Good Grief: A
Tale of Two Tweens blog for Good Housekeeping.com. Follow her on Twitter at http://twitter.com/JenSinger.

Hilarious Moms on Our Latest Show


Today’s Blog Talk Radio show features our partner in co-hosting crime Kim Orlando at TravelingMom.com with special guests Jen Singer, author of Stop Second-Guessing Yourself–The Toddler Years: A Field-Tested Guide to Confident Parenting and founder of MommaSaid.net and Dawn Meehan, author of Because I Said So and mom of six. Download and listen in on the action when we tackle everything from the holidays, the best cars for mom, that new show “In the Motherhood” and much more!

Role Mommy and Friends on BetterTV!

Beth joins some of her favorite blogging moms, Jen Singer with Momma Said, Kimberly Coleman with Mom in the City and Randy Perskin from Single Minded Women in a two part segment on Better TV! The moms sat down with host Rene Syler and Arden Greenspan-Goldberg, a wonderful psychotherapist who instructed us to give up the guilt and start doing the things we love too! But you don’t have to read about it! Take a look right now and be inspired!

For more great ways to balance your busy life, visit Better TV.

We Got A Shout out On Yahoo Shine!

Thanks to the fabulous Jen Singer, who is an author and mom blogger extraordinaire, we just got a nice shout out for Role Mommy on Yahoo Shine and the Good Housekeeping blog. Jen and I, along with Kim Coleman at Mom in the City and Randy Perskin at Single Minded Women, had a chance to do a mommy blog pow wow for Better TV that’ll air next month. What I discovered at that one hour session is that Jen is hilarious and her approach to life and family is amazing. She’s a cancer survivor who has managed to re-invent her life after learning of her prognosis and thankfully, ever since she beat the disease, she’s been playing tennis and pursuing her passion for writing while raising her family. Jen is a true Role Mommy and I’m so glad to have met her and to have become her friend! Check out Jen at Momma Said…you’ll be glad you did!

Win $$$ With Your Best Confession!


June 30th, 2008 is MommaSaid.net’s sixth annual Please Take My Children to Work Day, the holiday for full-and part-time at-home moms.  In honor of this special day, Momma Said has teamed up with True Mom Confessions to find the best confessay submitted by moms across the country.

The winner takes home some really great prizes.  So visit Momma Said or True Mom Confessions and share your story – you can either write it or send in a video.  You never know, you might be a winner.  I’m searching for my best stuff right now…could it be the story where I fell face first down a flight of stairs, or the one where I found a cockroach crawling in my Michael Kors bag after having lunch with an old friend.  Hmmm…I’ve got plenty of confessions, I better enter that contest ASAP! 

In the meantime, check out Momma Said founder Jen Singer’s confessay…