Sorry But Do I Know You?

I recently read an article by a former radio host who talked about how when people ask what she does, she first mentions her former job rather than focusing on what she’s doing now. I have to admit – I do that all the time. Sadly, when I was in that big job, I was miserable and complained about it all the time. So much so that my husband convinced me to take a chance, go off on my own and start my own business.
That was eight years ago. At the time I had left my job, I was pretty confident. I had a ton of contacts. I thought I wouldn’t have a problem once I hung up my own shingle. But time and time again, all the people I thought were my friends, were just colleagues. A few went out of their way to help me but honestly, I can count those amazing people on one hand and I know they know who they are. While the others would take my calls, their responses were typically dismissive or disappointing. “I wish I could book your client, but sorry, I just can’t do it.” Over and over again I was rejected by people I used to work side by side with.
After a while, I finally gave up trying to reach out to my old “friends” and began to find new contacts who were receptive and actually began booking my clients regularly. I can’t believe I had to build a brand new list but have come to terms with the fact that all those people in those big jobs are never going to change unless they one day leave their perch, go out on their own and I get to say to them: Sorry but do I know you?