Why You Shouldn’t Tell Your Children to Make Good Choices

book-large-oct1.png You’ve heard it over and over. If you’re like me, you’ve probably even found yourself saying it from time to time. It’s a refrain that just about any children living today have heard from their parents: “Make good choices!” It’s usually accompanied by a smile or assertive nod as the children rush out the door to catch the school bus or participate in any activity that will not involve the parents’ supervision.
And, just about every time, it’s useless advice.
Why? Because most parents, while recognizing that it is critically important that their children make good choices, have failed to actually teach their children how to make good choices.
Think about it this way–if you tell your children to make good choices without having shaped their thinking in a way that allows them to differentiate good choices from bad choices, it’s really no different than telling them to flip a coin and get heads every time!
Now, the question becomes…how do we teach our children to make good choices?
And the answer? By teaching them how to think–not what to think.
Teaching kids what to think is what I like to call “Because I Said So” parenting. Instead of taking five minutes to explain the thought process behind what we’re telling our children, we so often deliver that classic line we all heard yelled from the front seat during road trips as children.
And while it’s true that kids should not question their parents’ authority, it’s also true that if the thinking behind that authority is never explained to them, they will adopt new ways of thinking as soon as that authority is lifted.
AA_ch3_thumb.jpg Andy Andrews is a New York Times best-selling author and speaker. His latest book, The Noticer Returns, is designed to teach parents how to raise children that will influence the next three generations. Read a free chapter of the book at TheNoticerReturns.com.

44 Memories for my (Gulp) 44th birthday

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They say you truly haven’t lived your life if you haven’t amassed a slew of memories that make you smile or even shed tears. As I approach my next birthday, I figured what better way to commemorate the year than to share 44 memories I will never forget. So let’s get started…
1. Four years old: My parents entered me in my very first beauty pageant – the Miss Wild Acres competition where I sang my ABC’s and the theme from Green Acres. While I nailed the talent competition and dazzled in my leopard bikini and Mary Janes, I blew the interview portion. When they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I wailed “Daddy.” While I didn’t win, I did come in third place behind Rita Humphries, and a girl named Chrissy.
2. Five years old: My mom went back to work full time and they decided to send me to Yeshiva since they had a full day kindergarten program. Half my day was spent in one location and then a bus took us to a second location. At the end of the day, we were supposed to be brought back by bus to the first location. (I know confusing). Anyway, for some reason, my teacher thought I was on a different bus and unintentionally made me miss my bus and when the kids got off the bus, I wasn’t there and my parents freaked. They proceeded to drive to the school and pick me up (I was hysterical crying) and then always picked me up from school so I didn’t have to take the bus again. To say I became paranoid of being left behind is an understatement.
3. Six years old: While vacationing with my family in the Poconos, I got caught shoplifting with my brother in Jamesway (we stole fishing equipment and candy). The last line I remember the security guard telling my dad: “And the little girl has a grape whistle pop down her pants.” Incidentally, the year before, we got caught smoking cigarettes. Thankfully, I shed my delinquent past before I hit my teens.
4. Seven years old: Don’t remember much except that Dorothy Hammill haircut my mom got for me for the next three years.
5. 9 years old: Voice lessons with Gina Joyce and my first singing recital where I performed “How Lucky Can You Get” by Barbra Streisand.
6. 10 years old: Being called Stubby Beth by several boys in my fourth grade class and being tormented by some really mean girls who shall remain nameless.
7. 10 and a half: Going to Israel with my family and meeting my cousins from Haifa. Then getting the chance to sing “Sadie Sadie” at a Roman amphitheater in Caesarea.
8. 11 years old: Playing the lead character in my very first school play written by 6th grade teacher, Ms. DiBuono. The show was called “It Ain’t Necessarily So” and I played “Student #10.”
9. 12 years old: Joining Weight Watchers with my parents. I lost nearly 20 pounds and nobody called me Stubby Beth again (at least not to my face).
10. 13 years old: After catching a cold because we accidentally left the door open near his cage, my bird Tweety dies on my 13th birthday.
11. 14 years old: Flew first class on a double decker Pan Am jet with my parents to Italy (we were upgraded and it was the best experience ever — Italy wasn’t so bad either).
12. 14 years old: Saw “Footloose” with my friends and found out that night that a boy I liked, liked me. We dated for about five seconds before he broke up with me and wouldn’t take my phone calls. I think he is bald now.
13. 15 years old: Won best female performer in SING (an original musical produced by each grade). Met my first serious boyfriend.
14. 15 years old: Played doubles in the PSAL finals at the National Tennis Center and came in 2nd in New York City.
15. 16 years old: Started college at UMASS, joined a sorority and was in my first musical at college where I played Jan in “Grease.”
16. 20 years old: Graduated college Phi Beta Kappa, started grad school at NYU and parted ways with that serious boyfriend from high school.
17. 21 years old: NYU Grad School graduation at Carnegie Hall. Had celebratory lunch with my parents at the Russian Tea Room. Wore a really cute shirt dress from Ann Taylor.
18. 22 years old: Got my first real job in PR and moved to Manhattan’s Upper West Side. The first week I was living in the city, I had a blind date with a really cute boy. Eventually, I would marry him.
19. 23 years old: Learned how to roller blade in Central Park in oncoming traffic (not a swift move but thankfully, I survived). Proceeded to rollerblade every weekend in the park where I’d sit in Sheep’s Meadow and listen to a guy we called Guitar Man play James Taylor tunes.
20. 25 years old: Left Manhattan and moved to Forest Hills with my boyfriend. We got engaged three months later — he pretended to have us pulled over by his friend who was a cop and he had two dozen roses and a ring waiting for me in the trunk.
21. 26 years old: Our wedding day — we were married at Temple Israel in Lawrence and I felt like Maria from “The Sound of Music.” Except for the fact that I’m Jewish and she was married in a church during World War II.
22. 26 years old: Our magical honeymoon in Italy. Filled with stressful and romantic moments — like the time I nearly left my father-in-laws pricey video camera on the water taxi or the incident where I told my husband we needed to get off the train when in actuality, we still had one more stop to go. But the romance of Venice and Positano made up for our near annulment and I still dream of the day we’ll return to that gorgeous suite at Le Sireneuse.
23. 28 years old: We moved into our first house in New Rochelle and met our very first friends, Holli and David while commuting to Manhattan.
24. 29 years old: I became pregnant with our first child — a baby girl we named Becca Drew who we named after both my grandmas (they were both named Dora.)
25. 30 years old: We spent our anniversary in Block Island but cut the trip short because it rained every day, we missed our one year old daughter and our hot water heater burst and flooded the basement.
26. 31 years old: We lost our dear friend David on 9/11. Meanwhile, unbeknownst to me, I was pregnant at the time with our son.
27. 32 years old: After my friend Holli drove me to my OB/GYN and I experienced labor pains at the diner, I gave birth a few hours later to our son Dylan, who we named after Holli’s husband David and our grandparents.
28. 33 years old: Dylan battles a cough and high fever and winds up in the hospital with bacterial pneumonia. Scariest experience as a parent but thankfully, he was okay.
29. 35 years old: I spearheaded the New York finale campaign for “Everybody Loves Raymond” which culminated in the cast ringing the closing bell at the New York Stock Exchange. Most amazing day of my career.
30. 36 years old: I published my first book, Peeing in Peace: Tales & Tips for Type A Moms with my friend and TV producer Yvette Corporon and we launched “Role Mommy” together, producing inspiring events for working mothers. Meanwhile, Yvette is about to release her very first novel while I’ve continued building Role Mommy into a blog network, events company and online destination for parents who have time to read (oh, that’s why my traffic is so low…just kidding…sort of).
31. 36 years old: My dad has a heart attack and we race to Florida to see him. Thankfully, he is okay (and is better than ever now) but our poor cat, Oliver dies when we return home (he was battling cancer).
32. 37 years old: I quit my job as a vice president at CBS and decide to become an entrepreneur launching a PR business and Role Mommy at the same time. Thankfully, I’d still get to work with CBS even after I leave.
33. 40 years old: Joint birthday party at Mickey Spillane’s with my husband with our closest friends and family.
34. 41 years old: I surprise my mom and whisk her off to Spain for her 70th birthday.
35. 42 years old: Planning and celebrating my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah. They say it takes nine months to have a baby – it also takes nine months to plan a Bat Mitzvah.
36. 42 years old: Our beloved cat Rudy dies one week before Becca’s Bat Mitzvah. Becca and I sit with him on our bed and hold him as he passes away in our arms.
37. 43 years old: My daughter and son graduate from elementary and middle school and then leave two days later for sleep-away camp.
TOO MANY MEMORIES TO COUNT…
38. Family vacations: Treasure Beach, Jamaica, Caribbean cruises, Florida, Bar Harbor Maine, Block Island, the Cape, Nantucket, Delaware, Ogunquit, California and many more.
39. Holiday dinners: Passover, Rosh Hashana, Thanksgiving, Christmas, St. Patrick’s Day and more with our family and close friends who are like family to us in more ways than one.
40. New Years Eve: Every year at our house — it’s become a tradition we will never give up — unless we splurge one of these days on a Christmas vacation.
41. Being a couch potato: I love curling up each night with my kids and my husband while we watch “The Voice,” the “X Factor,” “Modern Family” and movies on demand.
42. Spending weekends in the Hamptons: Love that my parents have a home in Southampton and that we get to spend a few summer weekends out there with them before they leave for Boynton Beach.
43. Dinners with great friends: I love getting the chance to laugh with friends over wine and great food at some of our favorite restaurants in Westchester including Alvin and Friends, Harvest on the Hudson, Morgan’s Fish House and more.
44. Still dating that cute guy even though we’re married 17 years: And last but not least, I love the fact that I still date my husband. This year, we went to Mystic, CT, the Jersey Shore and stumbled upon a few wineries too. The more that we date, the more I realize how lucky I am to have had the opportunity to spend more than half my life with him…and the good news is we get to make many more memories together.
So check back with me when I’m 88 — then again, I’ll probably be senile by then and will have forgotten half the things I’ve written down. It’s a good thing I have a blog.

Flashback Friday: Role Mommy’s Favorites from 1985

My daughter is currently a freshman in high school and she loves One Direction, Modern Family, and Urban Outfitters. I’ve been vicariously living through her, so I decided to take a ride in my time traveling DeLorean (let’s be real my Mazda 323) to remember what was popular during the prime of my high school life. Here are some of the things I came up with…
1) FAVORITE TV SHOW: FAMILY TIES

2) FAVORITE FOOD: TOFUTTI SOFTSERVE– Imagine my disappointment when I found out it wasn’t dietetic
3) FAVORITE MOVIE: THE BREAKFAST CLUB

4) FAVORITE FASHION: DEMI MOORE’S HAIRCUT IN “ABOUT LAST NIGHT” – If anyone is keeping score, this movie actually came out in 1986, but we had to give a shout out to Demi’s hair…it was and still is fabulous!

5) FAVORITE SONG: ST. ELMO’S FIRE BY JOHN PARR

What were some of your favorite things from 1985? Tweet @Rolemommy with some of your high school obsessions #1985.

Five Ways to Cure a Sore Throat

sore-throat1.jpgLet me just start this post by saying I am not a doctor or a nurse. But I am quite good at Googling and when I woke up five days before my big show at my synagogue with a sore throat, I panicked.
I could feel my throat start to get a bit scratchy before I went to bed but I tried to ignore it and not freak out. But when I awoke at 6 am and the pain started to get worse, I went into full on state of emergency mode. You see, my pattern for sore throats is as follows. Redness gets worse to the point where I feel like I’ve swallowed knives. Within 24 hours the sore throat dissipates as I develop a full blown head cold. At this point, I can’t breathe at all through my nose and I can’t taste food. Horrendous.
Making matters worse, after about two days of the cold, the mucus usually heads down to my chest and I get stuck with a cough that keeps me up at night and sometimes even develops into laryngitis. Did I mention my show is in five days?
So, back to my story. I woke up this morning and raced down to the kitchen. And while the cat thought I’d be breaking open a can of Fancy Feast a few hours before his usual meal time, I headed to the cabinet that’s chock full of cold, sore throat and stomach bug remedies. So what did I do? Popped two vitamin C, gargled salt water and ate an Airborne throat lozenge. Since there are other remedies I’ve yet to try, I’m going to include them in this fave five, but do it at your own risk since I’m not desperate…yet.
1. Pop two tablets of Vitamin C. Although after copious Internet searching I learned that Vitamin C is not that effective, I ignored that piece of information and immediately swallowed the required dosage.
2. Gargle with Salt Water. That has been the resounding choice of doctors and consumers all over the web. Take a glass of warm water and add about a teaspoon of salt.
3. Gargle with mouth wash and hydrogen peroxide. While you’d think that sounds like a recipe for a stomach pump, supposedly the anti-bacterial action in the hydrogen peroxide will kill off those throat germs.
4. Gargle with Cayenne Pepper. Okay, this one you must try at your own risk. At the Earthclinic website, I saw a huge response to the method of gargling with cayenne pepper powder. However, I also read a few of the mishaps – one woman swallowed the pepper, it went down to her stomach and she proceeded to throw up so much that she forgot about her sore throat. Another man swallowed it too and his head caught fire. Okay – not really but it felt like it did. There are over 300 testimonials from people who say it worked instantly but just be careful – put in an 1/8 of a teaspoon of pepper because if you over do it, you could turn into a red hot chili pepper and your throat will still hurt.
5. Eat a Garlic Clove. I have no idea why this works, but again according to the holistic cures for a sore throat, garlic is at the top. The thought of it totally grosses me out but I guess I can stomach garlic over cayenne.
Now of course, there’s always zinc lozenges, echinacea, hot tea, chicken soup and a crazy remedy that I had once with honey, lime, lemon juice and pepper – but I’m not desperate yet. Check back with me later in the day if the sore throat gets worse because if so, I could be trying all of the above.
Do you have any surefire remedies to stop a sore throat and cold in its tracks? Let us know because at this point, we will try anything! Now if you don’t trust me and would like to consult someone more official on the web, then hit one of my favorite sites that’s chock full of great medical advice…WebMD.

It’s 4 O’Clock Somewhere: Time for a Chocolate Break

I live for chocolate. There, I said it…and it feels good. Especially since they say it’s perfectly fine to have one piece every day, I’m always on the lookout for a sweet treat in the late afternoon that will tide me over until dinner time.
So imagine my delight when I recently got the chance to try out a new chocolate baked treat from the folks at Weight Watchers. As a lifetime member since I was 12, I’ve been a fan of the brand’s sweet treats for a while now but the true test came when I tricked my kids into thinking they were sampling a brand new decadent chocolate dessert.
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My son loved sampling both treats but the more discerning opinion came from my daughter, with a cameo by my husband:

Wonder where you can get your hands on these newest low calorie chocolate creations? Consumers can find these new products at national (Walmart, Kroger and Publix) and local grocery retailers.
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The delicious additions to the Weight Watchers Sweet Baked Goods lineup offer a one-of-a-kind indulgence with creamy fillings, rich flavors and decadent textures:
Triple Chocolate Brownie Bliss™
A decadent brownie layered with creamy, real chocolate ganache and a chocolaty coating. Each individually-wrapped brownie is 80 calories and has a PointsPlus® value of 2.
Peanut Butter Brownie Bliss™
An indulgent brownie layered with creamy, real peanut butter and a chocolaty coating. Each individually-wrapped brownie is 90 calories and has a PointsPlus® value of 2.
Both varieties of Brownie Bliss contain zero grams of trans fat. They join other Weight Watchers Sweet Baked Good products including Chocolate, Lemon, Carrot and Red Velvet Creme Cakes, Chocolate Brownie, Coffee Cake, Cookies and Muffins. Consumers can find the new products at select national and local grocery retailers for a suggested retail price beginning at $3.29.
Okay, after reading these descriptions, I’m totally craving more sweets. Gotta go…time for a chocolate fix. Two points never tasted so good!
Disclosure: This post was sponsored by the Role Mommy Writer’s Network. All opinions are my own.

Anna Faris & Allison Janney Star in the New CBS Comedy MOM

Sometimes, I have to say I really love my job. For the past 23 years, I’ve managed to carve out a career working with celebrities – first as a television publicist and now as a social media connector who gets to introduce some of my favorite stars to my favorite parenting and lifestyle bloggers. So imagine my thrill when I got the chance to invite writers from the west coast and one lucky blogger and her mom from Chicago to attend a private set visit and Q&A with the cast of MOM? Best. Day. Ever.
If you haven’t heard about MOM yet, it’s a brand new comedy produced by Chuck Lorre – the same Emmy award-winning producer who brought viewers the edgy and hilarious comedies “Two and a Half Men,” “The Big Bang Theory” and “Mike and Molly.” With MOM, Lorre and co-creator Gemma Baker tackle motherhood in a way that no other comedy has done before. Christy, played by one of my family’s favorite comedic actresses Anna Faris, is a recovering alcoholic with a promiscuous 16 year old daughter named Violet (Sadie Calvano) and a nine year old son named Roscoe (Blake Garrett Rosenthal). While she struggles to overcome her alcohol addiction and come to terms with the fact that she’s never achieved her true potential, Christy has reluctantly reunited with her own mother, Bonnie, played by the ri-donculously talented Emmy award-winning actress, Allison Janney. Bonnie is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict who has finally put the past behind her and is by far, one of the most over confident Cougar moms you will ever see on TV. Take a look…

During the Q&A with Anna, Allison, Sadie Calvano and producer Gemma Baker, they talked about their excitement surrounding the show, whether we’ll see traces of their own moms in their performances and the best advice their moms have ever given them.
Question: Did you bring a little piece of your mom to this show?
Allison: I always try to bring a little bit of my mother to everything because I think that’s my brand of humor. I’m not a comedienne, I can’t tell jokes. When I try to be funny it doesn’t work but when my intention is to do something and I do it commit to it 100 percent then it ends up being funny. And that’s my mother and the things that she cares about and the stakes for her for getting the table settings perfect makes me laugh. And it doesn’t matter if the person doesn’t get a chocolate turkey at Thanksgiving, they can share – she gets so riled up about place settings and flowers and hot towel racks and it just makes me love her because it makes me laugh so I like to bring any color of her to anything I do.
Anna: My mom came into my bedroom two nights ago at 11 o’clock and she’s like, “I found the perfect candelabra. You have to get it.” And I was like, okay (starts typing on computer and enters her credit card information) It was one of those things where I can’t fight it right now, I just have to invest $500 bucks and it’s worth it.
Question: What’s the best advice your mom has given you?
Sadie: When I first started the first thing my mom told me was make sure to remember as many names as possible and to thank the person standing in the corner because it takes everyone to make it possible. And to remember to thank the person who picks up your napkin and it’s just as important to thank them as it is to thank Chuck or Gemma. I think that’s one of the things that helped me the most.
Allison: My mother is incredibly gracious and kind and considerate and polite and listening to other people. Those qualities she gave me are instilled in me and I think they have served me very well in my career. I like to be an actor’s actor – life is too short and it’s wonderful to work with people who are generous and kind and gracious and those are qualities I admire in people and that’s what she taught me.
Gemma: My mom is an incredible woman. She’s a bishop and actually she’s…
Allison: I’m sorry, what?
Gemma: Yes, a girl with a bishop for a mom. So she has given me a lot of wonderful advice. One of the things that was so profound to me was that someone had said to me about my mother. Which is, “‘in this world there are guests and there are hosts and your mother is a host.” That’s something that I’ve always wanted to be like her in that way – generous and giving of herself.
Anna: This is something really specific. I think about it a lot. She used to be really scared of insects, spiders, bugs, whatever. And she got some advice from an older relative , my great aunt or whatever and she witnessed my mom being scared and she said “don’t pass that fear onto your children.” And so she after that, didn’t. So now my brother and I have a fondness for all bugs which kind of freaks people out but I love that idea that she didn’t pass her fear on to us and I love that it’s sort about being brave.
Question: Even though you’re a new mom, does it freak you out to be the parent of teenage daughter and son and what the future could hold in store?
Anna: It totally freaks me out. I can’t imagine being responsible for a 16 year old and a nine year old. It is terrifying. I love though that my character was a child when she had Violet and Bonnie was a child when she had me. So I think that you are forced to grow up really quickly but also, at least in my case, she’s immature in a lot of ways and she’s been a little bit stunted by her experiences.
Question: How excited are you for premiere night…are you worried about the competition?
Gemma: So excited. I have to say the whole process has been like being pregnant. I mean it started and I wasn’t really expecting it and then it was happening. I always wanted to have a show and didn’t know I was going to get that opportunity and it was out in the world and I know it’s coming and it’s about to happen and I am so excited that it’s about to be out there.
Allison: This is like the part where we thing our baby is really pretty so to go out there and we’re worried and we hope that everyone else will think our baby’s pretty too.
Sadie: I first learned this when I was auditioning for Mom. I was sitting next to a good friend of mine who I was sitting next and she was concerned that it was pilot season and she wasn’t booking anything. And someone had just given me this really great piece of advice. Someone told me that you have to just trust in the fact that there’s enough to go around. And that what’s meant for you will come. And I think that when we’re reading these articles about all these other shows, it’s the same thing. You just have to trust in the fact that there’s enough to go around and there are so many TV shows out there and people will resonate with what they resonate with and I have a lot of confidence in our show and I think a lot of people who are involved in it do too and i think that’s going to read. And you have to focus on that instead of all the if’s and’s or could be’s.
MOM premieres Monday, September 23 at 9:30 pm/8:30 c on CBS. Make sure you tune in and join us on twitter too! We’ll be tweeting along with the cast so join the fun by following the handles and hashtags below!
MOM premieres this Monday, September 23 on CBS at 9:30 pm ET/8:30 pm Central.
MOM: @MOMCBS
Anna Faris: @AnnaKFaris
Allison Janney: @AllisonBJanney
Sadie Calvano: @SadieCalvano
#CBSMOM

Take Back the Kitchen: Alma’s Curried Zucchini and Couscous

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Here’s an easy and healthy vegetable dish to use up all those zucchini from your gardens!
Curried Zucchini and Couscous:

1 1/2 cups cooked couscous (can use leftover cooked rice, quinoa or other grain)
2 medium sized zucchinis cut into 1/4″ dice
1/2 medium onion, chopped
1/2 red pepper, seeded and chopped
2 tsp olive oil
1 tsp salt
2 tsp curry powder
1/4 tsp ground black pepper
1/4 tsp cayenne pepper
Method:

In a medium sized saute pan, heat up olive oil
Add in peppers and onions and stir for a few minutes
Add in the zucchini and stir
Add in the salt and spices and stir a few minutes until heated through
Add in cooked couscous, stir until combined and serve
Alma Schneider
Take Back the Kitchen, LLC
www.takebackthekitchen.com

The Rah-Rah Mom: How to be Your Child’s Most Effective Cheerleader

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Being a cheerleader in high school allowed me to participate in two things (besides music) that I loved most – sports and supporting others. During football season, my friends would look to me to call the cheers, whether we needed a first down or block a punt. And I always knew the right cheers to call.
As a new mom a decade later, however, I found that my ability to cheer had been paralyzed by overwhelming feelings of inadequacy. I had no idea that the pain I thought I had effectively hidden from myself and others – my experiences of childhood sexual abuse and clinical depression – would surface so fully.
After hearing about the idea that our children unwittingly reflect our issues to us to invite us to clear them up in order to be happy, I doggedly searched for ideas and techniques that would help me heal. The last thing I wanted was for my precious son to focus on trying to make me happy. To me, his only job was to focus on his life while I cheered for and supported him.
What I ultimately realized was that my intention to be the best mom I could possibly be is the very reason why my old issues surfaced – I wasn’t going to be effective at faking happiness so I gave myself the opportunity to Heal For Real™ and unblock my clouded heart. And that is exactly what I did!
American environmentalist Paul Shepard once wrote, “There is a secret person undamaged in every individual.” I found that by healing emotionally and cheering for myself first, I reconnected with my undamaged self, and became the most authentic and best cheerleader I could be for my son.
Ultimately, you are perfect. Realistically, you are undamaged. Cheer for yourself first and watch the magic unfold for you and your family!
_Fav_0270[1].jpg Janet D. Thomas is an author, captivating speaker and emotional healing expert whose words inspire and motivate, energizing transformation in those who experience her. Her book, Lemons, Lemonade & Life – Practical Steps for Getting the Sweetness Back When Life Goes Sour, has been honored by the 2012 New York, Hollywood, San Francisco, London and Los Angeles Book Festivals. It has been hailed as “insightful,” “transformational,” and “revolutionary.”
Always seeking for answers, over the course of her life Janet has healed the wounds of childhood sexual abuse and overcome a laundry list of challenges ranging from obesity, eviction and bankruptcy to compulsive lying, clinical depression and divorce. To her, making lemonade is no mere philosophical or psychological proposition; it has been a life-saving strategy.
A lifelong metaphysician and with over 20 years as a trained channel and medium, Janet is a highly effective spiritual coach. Her approach is one of determining how to do, rather than how to think. She is a manifester extraordinaire. Because of the intensity, determination, and sheer dedication with which she pursues her calling, Janet is, indeed, a healing soldier.
A native of Southern California, Janet lives, writes and maintains her coaching practice in North Hollywood, California. She is the mother of an adult son, of whom she is very proud.
Visit her at www.janetdthomas.com

“The Talk” Confessions

After a brief summer hiatus, CBS’s “The Talk” is back and better than ever! The new season of the hit daytime talk show premiered with a bang this week as all of the hosts confessed their deepest secrets! Check out their secrets here:
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1. Aisha Tyler revealed that after years of saying she didn’t want kids, she had a change of heart and recently underwent fertility testing. Unfortunately, Aisha found out that the odds of her conceiving are minimal, and decided that it’s too late for her to have children of her own. As moms, I think we can all relate to Aisha’s struggle. Click here to see more of Aisha’s confession.
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2. Julie Chen admitted that years ago she had cosmetic eye surgery after a local news director told her she looked bored during interviews and would never make it big because of the way she looked. This caused controversy in Julie’s family, but Chen says she’s still very proud of her Chinese heritage. Check out the before and after photos…what do you think? Does Julie’s confession say something about our society’s standards of beauty? To see Julie’s entire confession,click here
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3. Sara Gilbert discussed how she came to terms with her sexuality after dating her “Roseanne” co-star Johnny Galecki. Gilbert admitted she realized that she was a lesbian while kissing her Roseanne costar and boyfriend, Johnny Galecki who kept her secret private and has always been one of her closest friends ever since. She also revealed that being on “The Talk” helped her overcome her fear of being publicly gay, but that she’s also still afraid there will be repercussions when she discloses personal information, such as her recent engagement to girlfriend Linda Perry. Yet Gilbert ended her confession with some inspirational words:
“I want to live a true life. Beyond that, we do often say things like “it gets better” – and it does get better. I have an amazing life, but there can still be a struggle with it, and that’s ok. There can be a part of you that doesn’t want to be different or feel scared. And that is more important than any of it.”. To see the whole video, click here.
Click here to check out Sharon’s secret! And click here to watch Sheryl’s emotional revelation about her childhood.
What do you think of “The Talk” confessions? Do you have any confessions of your own?
Don’t forget to tune in to the new season of “The Talk” – Weekdays at 2 PM ET and tweet along @TheTalk_CBS.

TV’s Top 10 Most Unconventional Moms

Drinking, smoking, drugs, abuse, neglect, are just some of the words you would describe these moms. None of them will win Mother of the Year, but they sure are fun to watch! Did your nominee for most unconventional TV mom make our list?

TV’s Top 10 Most Unconventional Moms from beth Feldman on Vimeo.

If you can’t get enough of dysfunctional moms, then you are in luck. Check out the new CBS comedy, MOM which premieres on CBS on September 23 at 9:30 pm/8:30 c. MOM is a comedy from executive producer Chuck Lorre starring Anna Faris as a newly sober single mom raising two children in a world full of temptations and pitfalls, and multiple Emmy Award winner Allison Janney as her critical, estranged mother. Take a look at the preview and make sure you tune in to the premiere episode!