13 Ways to Transform Your Life

by Our Lady Of Weight Loss author Janice Taylor, Life & Wellness Coach and Featured Contributor for Beliefnet and the Huffington Post

janice before-after.jpgDo you like the way your life is unfolding? Would you like to change some of it? Change direction? Reinvent yourself? Lose Weight?
You can, you know. Reinvent yourself! I know because I did!
Here are 13 steps to a new and improved (not that you need any improvement), reinvented you!
Learn how you can transform your life.
1. Leap of Faith: Ready, Fire, Aim!
It’s lack of faith that makes people afraid of meeting challenges, and I believed in myself. — Muhammad Ali
We all have dreams — things that we want so intensely that we can taste them. Dreams that we can see in our mind’s eye and feel in our hearts. As excited and as enthusiastic as we may be, it is sometimes hard to take the first steps that can turn our dreams into our realities.
Often doubt comes rolling in and knocks the wind out of our sails. Our energy start to fade. The negative self-talk begins: “What if I fail?” “Who am I kidding?” “This will never work.” “I can’t do it.” Your first step is to realize that this is a natural phenomenon. We all have negative thoughts. Smile at these thoughts, and then get on your mark, get set, and Ready, Fire, Aim! Yup, you heard me right. Fire first; aim later.
2. Breathe and Energize
Breathe in experience, breathe out poetry. — Muriel Rukeyser
Take in a deep cleansing breath! You just jumped through the portal into life. Congratulations, and whew!
Breathing is an important part of the life-transformation plan, and it’s something that we often overlook, because we think we already are breathing. Well, of course we are, but usually not in a deep and meaningful way. Breathing releases endorphins that helps make us feel happy, enhances our appearance, and makes us feel instantly stronger and more confident. Breathing also revitalizes and energizes every cell in our body, as well as brings us back to center. So take a deep one!
3. Be Yourself
Be yourself, everyone else is already taken. — Oscar Wilde
That line from Oscar Wilde has got to be the one of the best ever uttered. Truly, wishing to look like, act like, or be someone else is an enormous waste of time and energy. You are fabulous and, happily, no one can be you, it’s already taken! Discover and explore each and every part of your being, your psyche, your soul. Embrace yourself fully — who you are, and who you will become as you transform your life.
4. Expect the Best
Transform Your Life gallery “Happy is the man who can make a living by his hobby.” — George Bernard Shaw in Pygmalion
It is called the Pygmalion effect and it’s a fact: If you expect the worst, you get it. Thoughts are not just insubstantial bits of information that enter our minds and fade away into the ether; thoughts are concrete things. Our words, ideas, and beliefs shape our daily lives. So get out of victim mode. You are worthy. Your dreams are within your reach. Imagine positive situations with happy outcomes.
Instead of asking yourself, “Well, what’s the worst thing that can happen?” Ask yourself, “What’s the best thing that can happen?” Expect the best!
5. Reframe Failure as the “F” Word
“There are no failures — just experiences and your reactions to them.” — Thomas Krause
Do you remember when you were a kid and you were playing a game and made a fumble, and yelled, “Do-over — do-over — do-over?” Well, grown-ups can yell “do over” too.
We’ve been conditioned to think of failing as a big, fat, shame-filled “F,” bringing forth punishment (like summer school). Truly though, failure is just a word that sets off a reaction in us. Let’s take failure, change our reaction to this “F” word, and reframe it.
Okay, so things didn’t turn out the way you wanted, or go the way you planned. Take a look at the situation without judgment. Ask yourself, “What really happened here? How can I experience this as feedback? What can I do differently next time?” No judgment, just learning. No failures, just feedback.
6. Use Your “Want Power”
There is no such thing as will power; only want power. — Our Lady of Weight Loss
It’s not about your “will,” it’s about your “want.” “Using your “want power” means that you want something enough to make the necessary changes in your lifestyle to get it, and to make sure that you have all the tools and support that you need to make those changes. It’s the preparation that guarantees success. Want power means that you are willing to do what it takes to get what you want. Get on your walking shoes, because you are about to go that extra mile!
7. Show Up!
Eighty percent of success is showing up. — Woody Allen
Each and every morning I show up. Simple as that. I start the day by asking myself a very simple yet powerful question. “How will I show up today?” And then I take out my “show up” journal and write.
There’s no yes or no in it; there’s no right or wrong in it. And on a subconscious level, using the words “will I” in the question implies that you will yourself to and you will show up today. Writing down the question each day taps into your subconscious mind, which then sends the answers straight through your fingers, through the pen, and onto the page. Do not think; just be present with the pen and write. “Showing up” may look different from day to day and that’s okay, because each day is different and brings forth different resources that live within.
8. Motivate
People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing — that’s why we recommend it daily. — Zig Ziglar
Isn’t that the truth! Showing up and getting motivated go hand-in-hand.. Having shown up, I remind myself each day of what my goals are and what I need to do to move successfully throughout the day, toward my goals. At first, it may seem that staying motivated takes conscious effort, and it does! But once you are in the habit of showing up and motivating yourself, it will become as automatic as brushing your teeth.
9. Give Yourself Permission
“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same” — Nelson Mandela
Reinvention and transformation come with new challenges. By stretching your envelope, your limits, and your thoughts, you are able to achieve more than you ever imagined. Give yourself permission to dream big, to do more, to believe in yourself. In other words, give yourself permission to be you. Take the time to show up and take care of yourself. Give yourself permission to do, be, act however you need to so that you can give yourself whatever it is that you truly want from your life.
10. Practice ForgiveMess
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” — Lewish B. Smedes
No, that’s not a typo. You really are creating quite a mess for yourself when you carry around years and platters — full of anger, upset, and resentment towards others and yourself. And while you may well be justified in your anger, because what so-and-so said and/or did was truly horrific, think about it. Who are you hurting? Yourself.
Frustration and aggravation can weigh you down both metaphorically and literally. Free yourself from guilt, anger, and hurt. Let the bitters go! Create space for success, abundance, prosperity, love, happiness, and enthusiasm. Repeat after me, “All is Forgiven, Move On!”
11. Choose What You’ll Tolerate
“A leaky faucet, a barking dog — those are things you tolerate.” — Candace Gingrich
What are you putting up with, what are you stomaching? What’s getting in your way? What are you tolerating? It could be as simple as the dust behind the refrigerator, or could be a more complicated matter like a certain person in your life, or it could be one of those really tough things — bad hair days!
Any time you sincerely want to change your life, one of the first things you must do is change what you demand for yourself and raise your standards. Imagine all your “tolerations” as stones, twigs, and rocks — maybe even fallen trees — which you have essentially placed onto your path and have to maneuver around every day.
These stumbling blocks slow us down and sap our energy. As you clear your path, you will travel faster and more smoothly It will become increasingly easier to recognize and to say no to anything that could slow you down. Clear your path, and you will create space for your best self.
12. Toss Reality Out the Window
“I reject your reality and substitute it for my own.” — Adam Savage
Yes, I am advising you to set unreasonable goals if you want to transform your life. As “they” say, it’s the journey that matters, not whether you reach the exact destination you thought you were heading towards. After all, the act of pursuing a goal activates the release of dopamine in the brain. Dopamine affects our capacity to feel pleasure and pain. Once the goal has been reached, the pleasure stops. So, it makes sense then to set a totally unreasonable goal, outside your comfort zone, and create small goals on the way to it. As you work toward your big “G,” you will accomplish many little g’s. It’s a win/win!
13. Fear: What is it Good For? Absolutely Nothing!
Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live. — Dorothy Thompson
“They” say that you have to be fearless. I say, “Be real. Who’s not afraid?” The thing about fear is that you simply do not want to let it paralyze you, stop you from moving forward, or get in your way.
How can you do that? What if you make friends with fear and invite it in? “Hello fear! Come on in.” When you do this, you will soon realize that you have survived your fear. You can let it go now. Knock fear out of the ballpark, circle the bases, and head on home. You are the champion of your newly transformed life!
I reinvented myself 7 years ago. I went from an overweight, unhealthy, job-holder leading a life of compromise to a slim, healthy, self-employed, fulfilled life & wellness coach and author. Instead of holding a job, I now do my life’s work.
If I can, you can!

Meet Mom of Reinvention, Terri Camp

Role Mommy: What did you do before you became a mom?
Terri: Was I ever not a mom? It was so long ago, it’s the only thing I remember. Okay, 22 years ago I was an airman in the Air Force, but then I became a mommy. I was a stay-at-home, homeschooling mom for 22 years.
Role Mommy: When did you decide to reinvent your life?
Terri: My life changed dramatically when I discovered my husband had molested a couple of our children. It was a sudden reinvention. I had always been home with the kids, never worked outside of the home. I had written books and traveled around speaking, but that was it. Suddenly I was the sole provider for the remaining children.
Role Mommy: How have your children influenced your career path? How many do you have?
Terri: I have eight children, seven who are still living at home. The biggest influence is that they have always been homeschooled and have always had a full time mommy. I didn’t want to give that up. I did go to work for 18 months as the manager of a homeschool bookstore. The children were able to take classes there, so I felt like I was still a huge part of their lives. The oldest child who moved with me said to me, “The kids have always been homeschooled, so I will stay home with them while you work.” Even working more than 40 hours a week, I didn’t make enough to pay my rent living in an apartment. The desire to work from home was huge for me.
I took the classes required and passed the state licensing exam to become a real estate agent. I’ve been able to continue homeschooling the children, and selling real estate. Unfortunately the market has been horrible the last several months, so I’m finding myself once again struggling with the decision to work outside of the home.
Mommy ministry has always been a huge part of my life, so ideally I would like to be able to make money at home, and minister to Moms in a very tangible way.
Role Mommy: What’s your favorite “Time Out” tip for moms (taking time for yourself)
Terri: I wish someone had told me a long time ago that taking time for me was vital. But instead I always felt guilty for taking a leisurely bath or reading a book or magazine. Not anymore! It’s VITAL for our survival and well being to take time for ourselves. I like to go out to eat – soup is inexpensive and gives a lovely feeling of warmth and comfort.
Role Mommy: What does your website offer moms or kids?
Terri: My current website offers moms encouragement and support for where they are. The website I’m working on will be more of a site where Moms can go to learn to be better moms. It will offer a place to unwind, a place to take a little time out, and also a section where they can grow as moms and as women. It’s going to be a phenomenal place on the web for Mommies. It is more of a coaching site for moms, to encourage them to take the steps that are required of them. A lot of times we don’t take care of ourselves, and it shows in all aspects of our lives. My goal is to help women to see that they are important and that they deserve kudos, so they can pass that on to their children. Ta-Dah! Mom!
Role Mommy: What do you hope for your own kids?
Terri: For one I want my kids to feel safe and secure in their own home. I want them to know without a doubt that I will move mountains to keep them safe. It’s not about how much we have, but that we have each other. I want them to grow up knowing that they are dearly loved and that I will encourage them to be whatever God has called them to be!
Role Mommy: Who is your Role Mommy?
Terri: Sarah Palin is my role mommy. I first read about her over a year ago. Something about her resonated with me. When she was nominated, I cried. I felt like I was up there on the podium with her, with arms locked, telling the world, Moms can do anything!

Are Your Friends Making You Fat?

fatfrie1.jpgSo last night, I sat down to dinner with my husband…this time made cajun crawfish, lumpy sweet potatoes (another bad side dish) and our spaghetti squash and turkey meatball leftovers which I devoured and must say that even on day two, it tasted quite delish. But I digress. Anyway, we got on the topic of my weight loss mission and I told my DH that I had a fabulous idea for a new post – Are Your Friends Making You Fat? And at first, he was a bit squeamish because he doesn’t want me picking on our friends – don’t want to risk pissing anyone off but then he added that there’s actually a show on TV that already covers this topic.
And lo and behold, I googled the word he gave me, Diet Tribe and I discovered there’s a show on Lifetime about five friends who have vowed to lose weight together. My only beef with this new show is that these friends appear as if they’re single – although I haven’t read all their bios so don’t want to jump to conclusions. But when you’re a parent and you’re chowing down on your kids’ food and then finally getting the chance to kick back with friends over a glass of wine and some fried dough with powdered sugar, it’s as if you’ve been transported to a fantasy land where all your cares and troubles melt away. Unfortunately, in my instance it all melted onto my thighs.
And so, I’d like to just take on the topic of Are Your Friends Making You Fat in the most constructive way possible. What I’ve found, without a shadow of a doubt is that the answer is abso-friggin-lutely. Back in the summer, I distinctly remember gaining at least 6 pounds after we spent several days away with good friends and savored bottles of wine, great food and conversation – thankfully the chats were calorie free but the rest of the stuff caused a significant weight gain. Fast forward to the holidays and surprisingly, the exact same thing happened. But this time, in addition to spending time with our good friends and enjoying incredible dinners and mouthwatering desserts, we were also invited to holiday parties that led me to where I am right now – squeezing into tight jeans that were swimming on me last year. All I can say is, thank goodness for stretch denim.
So how do I deal with socializing with friends without gaining a significant amount of weight? Simple…when they reach for the bread basket, I’ll pretend that if I touch a roll I’ll get an electric shock if I lay a finger on the raisin pumpernickel. No, really, I mean it. And when they order two bottles of wine – I’ll have one glass instead of three. And when they order fried dough…I’ll take one little piece instead of five squares – that’s fair – I can’t deprive myself of everything!
So what’s your strategy for dining with friends who might unintentionally sabotage your weight loss plans? Share your story now!