MIA: Mom is Away
Written by Role Mommy contributor, Danielle Feigenbaum
A few months ago I received a wedding invitation from a close family friend. The wedding was going to be in Florida. I am a big fan of the destination wedding, but with two kids and financial restraints, it's not always easy to swing it. I really wanted to go. I wanted to spend time with my parents, celebrate with a friend who is like a brother to me, but most of all - I wanted to get AWAY.
I love my kids and my husband and blah blah, but let's be real... we ALL need a mom-time-out in order to keep our sanity and recharge our batteries. It used to be taboo to be honest about wanting to get the hell out of dodge (I still don't think my mom gets it - she would never have left us or my dad for any period of time). First, I spoke to my husband about it... he was all for me going, totally supportive, he rocks! Next I found reasonable flights and used points to fly from NY to Miami. I booked my room at the hotel where the wedding was going to take place since they had a good wedding rate. I organized play dates and help with the kids Friday after school and then my hubby was on duty for the weekend. Have I mentioned that my husband rocks? I was all set.
At the kid's school pick up last week, when I told my mom friends I was going to Miami for a wedding, by MYSELF, they couldn't believe it. I'm pretty sure any of them would have traded places with me.
So last Friday I went to the airport and breezed through security (it's just so much easier without the kids and all the stuff!) Boarded the plane, took a deep breath, sat back and relaxed. It was an amazing feeling. You all know how the story goes... from morning till night you are on a schedule... getting kids up, lunches packed, off to school, cleaning up, work, errands, endless array of after school activities, carpools, play dates, homework, cook dinner, laundry... I'm tired. I'm not looking for sympathy here, I understand that this is life and I love my life - but arriving at the gorgeous Viceroy Hotel in Miami, I was happy to escape my life for a couple of days.
I loved the hotel, my room was amazing (I think the bathroom was bigger than my bedroom at home) and the pool was fantastic. I had nobody to look after but myself and it was lovely. I spent time just lying on the bed watching mindless television, had a blast at the beach BBQ rehearsal dinner (yes, I will have a margarita, thank you). On Saturday I was able to have a leisurely lunch with my college roommate who lives in Florida and I haven't seen in almost four years. Then it was a tough afternoon relaxing by the pool. Getting ready for the wedding slowly without anyone pulling on me or calling out "mom mom mom mom" was also a treat! The wedding was a blast and I was so happy I was able to make the trip down to celebrate with my old friend and get a little R & R in at the same time.
Of course Monday morning came too fast and life went back to normal, but I was ready to take on whatever came my way. I highly recommend you take a parent-time-out when you can. If you can escape for a day or a weekend by yourself, with some friends or your spouse, do it. You will love every minute and appreciate the quiet, but you will also be so excited to get home to your little rug rats and squeeze them tight.