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When the Angry Mob Follows You Through Cyberspace

Introducing a guest blog post submitted by one of our favorite Role Mommies, author Jen Singer...

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Last June, an angry mob of women chased me across the Internet. I'd appeared on CBS The Early Show to talk about my holiday for full- and part-time at-home moms called, "Please Take My Children to Work Day," which I'd created years ago when I was a (mostly) stay-at-home mom of two little kids. Held annually in June, the holiday has even been officially declared by governors in about a dozen states.

Though few moms these days take time for themselves, I knew that at-home moms in particular often feel they shouldn't or can't get a day off, even if they're caring for small children upwards of 100 hours a week. I also knew that few people - even their husbands - would believe they deserved or needed it. So I made it official by creating the holiday.

But the angry mob didn't want to hear it. They posted nasty things on other web sites and even tried to find me on my own web site. I got rude e-mails from people telling me to find a more worthy group of people to champion. It made me consider canceling my holiday altogether. I mean, I'm a work-at-home mom now. Why should I take the hit for stay-at-home moms?

Well, because nobody else will, least of all at-home moms. As I explained on MommaSaid.net: "At-home moms often don't feel like they deserve a break because they have the privilege of staying home. But when a sick day is doing what you do every other day, only you feel worse, and you can't use the bathroom without an audience, you need an excuse to get a day off. And here it is."

For a few more hours, the angry mob complained and questioned and dropped F-bombs in sentences with my name in it. So I posted an answer to one of their most often asked questions:

"Q. Why do you think we working moms would take your kids to work? We're busy enough!

A. The title is tongue-in-cheek, people. Colorado declares it "Stay-at-Home Mother Day." That's all it is. Eight or so hours off from the daily chores and responsibilities. Not a slap in the face to working moms any more than Father's Day is a slap in the face to mothers, or Arbor Day disses low-lying vegetation."

I suggested to the naysayers that they start their own holiday or celebration of working moms. "Think about it: the media is filled with working moms, so they'll cover it. Corporations are filled with them, too, and they'll sponsor it." And I'll attend it, now that I'm a work-at-home mom.

Perhaps an angry mob will chase them across the Internet, too, but I hope not. I'd hope that all moms can all see that each and every one of us is just doing our best to get by however we can. It's just that stay-at-home mothers didn't have a voice, so I gave it to them, along with a much needed day off.

Jen Singer is the author of Stop Second Guessing Yourself - The Toddler Years, and the creator of MommaSaid.net. She writes the Good Grief: A Tale of Two Tweens blog for Good Housekeeping.com. Follow her on Twitter at http://twitter.com/JenSinger.

Posted in: Blog, Role Mommy Confessions on 04/13/2009

Comments

  • I agree whole-heartedly with what your response was to the question about a day off for mothers.

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