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Cute Hubby

Here I am, sitting all by my lonesome in Montauk while DH is taking a nap after we've slurped down two incredibly potent mojitos that were prepared for us by a one armed bartender. No joke - the bartender had one arm and managed to mix drinks, carry buckets of ice and pretty much do most of the menial labor at the bar while his cohort collected the drink money and tips. But I digress, as I often do.

Today marks our 12th anniversary weekend. Yes, I cannot believe that it's been nearly 12 years since I got married and didn't have a care in the world except for my beloved - who, from here on out I will call "cute hubby." Because he is, and because I like the nickname. Throughout our marriage, we've had our ups and downs, but at the heart of it, we've always managed to find a way to talk (and argue) through our disagreements and have found our way back home. And why do I love my "cute hubby?" Simple. Because he makes me laugh. Because he supports me. Because he is always there during the ups, the downs and in the in betweens we've experienced as parents.

He's a fabulous father - plays with our two kids like he's one of them and he's also pretty sentimental too. While I was too swamped with my business obligations this year, he's the one who booked us at the Montauk Yacht Club and while he's fast asleep from the lethal mojito that was mixed for us about an hour ago, I know he's having a great time relaxing, laughing and doing other things with me that are not allowable on a role mommy blog.

But seriously folks. In the last few weeks I have heard more stories about couples breaking up due to infidelity and frankly, that scares the living daylights out of me. It almost seems like the rate of cheating is tipping the scales against us faithful couples and frankly, I can't understand what is going on. Sure people get bored or moms who quit their jobs feel like they're underappreciated and have wasted their advanced degrees, but you know what? If you're miserable, don't look elsewhere for happiness. There's a reason you married your significant other and no matter how many years have passed, there is always a way to bring yourself back to that first moment that you met.

Sure, there are couples who were never made for each other, but I have to say, with "cute hubby," I fell for him on our very first date. Sure, the looks and the sense of humor had a lot to do with it, but over the years I've found that having someone in my life who supports everything I do and even provides me with advice on how to build my business (although I can be pretty stubborn at times taking that advice) has been incredibly invaluable.

I truly feel incredibly lucky to have my "cute hubby" in my life and know that no matter what the future holds, we will grow old together and watch our kids pursue their dreams while we're on the sidelines cheering them along. I know how hard it is to keep a marriage intact while raising kids and do get worried every time I hear another story of a couple biting the dust, but at least I can say, as we approach our 12th anniversary, that I still enjoy cute hubby's company and look forward to the memories we'll be making with our kids in the years ahead. Still have a few more minutes to myself before he wakes up from his nap. Maybe I'll surf the net and buy an outfit. Or maybe I'll take a break and take a nap too. Either way, I'm glad I have him by my side - here's to another 12 years - let's hope we'll still be going away on special anniversary weekends. Wait...by then, our kids will be grown and will have no use for us. Okay, happy anniversary to me...here's to an enjoyable weekend. One milestone at a time.

Posted in: Blog, Role Mommy Confessions on 08/16/2008