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Question of the day...

There comes a time when it will happen. I guess I didn't realize it would be when my daughter was only 6 1/2 but it did, my daughter's pen pal's mother passed away. While I could hold off a little longer due to the distance factor (she lives in Rhode Island), it is only proper that she reach out to her friend to offer her condolences and her support. So, I am turning to all of you moms to help me with suggestions on how to break the news and what is appropriate to say from one child to another. My heart goes out to this little girl who will always long for her mom (now matter how loving her father and grandparents are).

My daughter has been exposed to great grandparents passing away (they were old and went to Heaven) and she's even friends with the children of some of my friends who are widows but since she was so little when their dads passed it is as if their dads are on a business trip when we visit their homes. I have to admit that I am a little scared to explain it to my daughter. I am afraid I won't have the right answers, afraid to introduce her to the big bad world of "death" and as selfish as it seems afraid to take away that little bit of innocence she has left (High School Musical aside).

I am open to all suggestions, rituals (one friend suggests releasing a balloon for the mom) or anything you think will ease the pain of this little girl from my daughter if only for a little while...

Posted in: Role Mommy Confessions on 12/04/2008