Heartfelt Advice from The Organized Mom
Since Valentine's Day is quickly approaching, I wanted to share in this post a book that has made an impact in my life. It's a book that I have used in my own marriage and the overall idea in my relationship with my three teenage sons.
I would describe this book as one of the key factors in understanding how to show love to someone, the kind of love that someone would respond to.
I often hear stories of how one person in a relationship tries and tries to fire up his or her relationship, but it frequently falls flat. Large amounts of preparation and effort are made; and then the other person, for whatever reason, does not respond the way the other had hoped. Sometimes this can ultimately make the one trying, stop trying because it seems to make no difference.
The book is called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It is so well written; I frequently recommend this book to couples in unhappy relationships.
The 5 Love Languages mentioned in the book are:
Words of Affirmation: Giving verbal compliments.
Quality Time: Giving someone your undivided attention.
Receiving Gifts: A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, "Look, he/she was thinking of me." or, "He/she remembered me.
Acts of Service: Doing things you know your spouse would like you to do.
Physical Touch: Holding hands, kissing, embracing, and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating emotional love to one's spouse.
If you need a great idea for Valentine's Day this year, get this book and read it. Then together list what you think the other person's love language is. More often than not, we get it wrong. People tend to love someone else the way they want to be loved and not necessarily how the other person needs to feel loved.
After knowing each other's love language, you will be expressing love to the person you love, in their language. To order book go to The 5 Love Languages.
Lorraine Brock is a professional organizer, family coach, speaker, and founder and owner of "Get Organized!" "Get Organized!" is a professional organizing company in the Dallas, Texas area. "Get Organized!" specializes in organizing and de-cluttering homes as well as implementing systems in the home for better family management.
A popular media guest, Lorraine has appeared on Dallas' two top morning television shows: Good Morning Texas and Good Day Fox, and has been featured on various radio outlets. She has been hallmarked in many local, regional, and national print and online magazines, such as the Dallas Morning News, The North Texas Kids Magazine, SheKnows.com, and Daily Candy Kids. To get more helpful advice from Lorraine, visit her blog Get Organized.!